Category: Finances

Control Spending for Those You Love

Your health and relationships can be affected by your spending and budgeting habits. For the sake of those you love, you should prioritize managing your budget and living within your means. Buying your loved one the perfect gift on Valentine’s Day is a way to express love and provides a great sense of satisfaction unless you cannot afford the gift. 

When the credit card bill arrives, and you do not have the money in your checking account to pay it, it leads to debt and stress. If you have planned and set some money aside, you may be able to take the money out of your savings. Otherwise, you pay a portion of the bill and carry a balance forward.

If spending beyond your means is rare, you likely can recover with a few months of cutting back on “extras.”  However, if it is a regular occurrence, your balance will increase each month due to accumulated interest and new purchases.

In America, credit card balances currently top more than $1.13 trillion. Transunion estimates that the average American has credit card balances of $6,088, and Money magazine estimates the average non-mortgage debt at nearly $21,800. Many Americans are stressed about their finances. This stress is harming their health and their relationships.  

Financial stress leads to physical challenges, including anxiety, depression, high blood pressure, migraines, aches and pains, and difficulty sleeping. These physical ailments can make you irritable and have wild mood swings. All of which is hard on those you love. You and your spouse may fight about money. You may find yourself avoiding the company of others and become more and more withdrawn from social life. This is not a healthy way to live.

It is essential to recognize that debt is a form of bondage. The Bible says, “The rich rule over the poor, but the borrower is servant to the lender.”  Proverbs 22:7

The antidote to debt and stress is to take control of your finances. If you need a place to start, try working through the following suggestions to climb out of debt. Write them down and put them on the frig. Keep it in a prominent place in the house where you will see it and be reminded and encouraged each day. 

  • Immediately forego all unnecessary expenditures.
  • Work with your spouse to create a budget you can both live with.
  • Designate a sum of money to pay toward existing credit card balances.
  • Track your spending so you are aware of where your money is going.
  • Include some “fun” spending in your budget. If your budget is too strict, you will feel punished, and it will be challenging to stick with it.
  • When you need to make a significant purchase, research the item for the best price.
  • Employ the “24-hour rule” for non-essential purchases. If an item in the store tempts you, wait 24 hours. Ask yourself if you need the item and what you will give up in order to afford the item.

Here are some suggestions on how to plan to avoid temptations to spend beyond your budget.

  • Make a grocery shopping list and stick to it. Determine how much you can spend and don’t exceed your limit. Some people use cash and only take the budgeted amount to prevent overspending.
  • Pack lunches and snacks for work. Brew coffee, take it with you, or buy coffee pods and make coffee at work.
  • Invite friends over for home-cooked meals and game or movie nights rather than going to expensive restaurants and expensive activities.
  • Avoid surfing Internet shopping sites that might tempt you to buy things you do not need.
  • Tape television shows and fast forward through commercials to further avoid the enticement of slick advertisers.

This Valentine’s Day show your true love for your spouse and family members by committing to reduce your debt and lower your financial stress. Your physical health and relationships will improve if you do.

Trusting God in an Uncertain Economy

A few days ago, I was feeling pretty good about the economy. The stock market has climbed above 37,000, and gasoline prices in my area have fallen to around $3 a gallon. Then, a friend mentioned that she has been delivering groceries and meals after work to make ends meet. She has a secure job with an average salary. Her husband operates their family-owned business. Yet, they are struggling to make ends meet. 

As I reflected on my friend’s story, I realized that several people in my life are working full-time jobs and then making deliveries or doing other side jobs in the evenings and on weekends. Increased inflation weighs on many consumers, and Americans continue to struggle with higher prices on food, rent, and restaurant meals.

Will the economy improve over the next few months? Or are we in for a stock market crash? Economists study several indicators and make predictions. They often disagree because the reality is that no person knows what the future holds. The bottom line is only God knows the future. 

When we put our trust in Him rather than our jobs or wealth, we can relax and live in peace regardless of what is happening in the world. The privilege of calling Christ your Lord involves walking with the One who holds your future in His hand. “Command those who are rich in this age not to be haughty, nor to trust in uncertain riches but in the living God, who gives us richly all things to enjoy.” 1 Timothy 6:17

When you trust God with your finances, you will have peace even when bad economic news impacts you personally. My trust in God allowed me to have peace when my husband was laid off from his job during the Great Recession in 2009. I could face whatever was coming our way, confident that God would take care of us. We are His children, and God cares for His children.

It is easy for me to say, “Trust God.” But it may be difficult for you to do that in your current circumstances. If you are having trouble trusting God for your future and finances, I encourage you to read and meditate on Psalm 71. The psalm illustrates some steps you can take to increase your faith.

Remind yourself of God’s past faithfulness. The psalmist is in trouble and needs God’s help. He begins in verse 1 by saying, “In You, O Lord, I put my trust.” He reminds himself that God protected him in his mother’s womb and throughout his youth. He then asks God to preserve him when he is old, and his strength fails. He builds up his trust in God as he recalls God’s faithfulness throughout his life.

Praise God for His goodness and His love. The psalmist shares his troubles with God in verse 13, but in verse 14, he reminds himself to give praise to God, “But I hope continually, and I will praise You yet more.” (Psalm 71:14). And he promises to tell others of God’s faithfulness and righteousness.

Declare that God is faithful and is the answer to your needs. “You, who have shown me great and severe troubles, shall revive me again, and bring me up again from the depths of the earth. You shall increase my greatness, and comfort me on every side.” Psalm 71:20-21. The psalmist tells himself and others that the God who has watched over him in the past will do so again. 

Thank God for what He has done and what He will do. “Also, with the lute, I will praise You— and Your faithfulness, O my God! To You, I will sing with the harp, O Holy One of Israel. My lips shall greatly rejoice when I sing to You, and my soul, which You have redeemed. My tongue also shall talk of Your righteousness all the day long.” Psalm 71: 22 – 24

Whatever trials you are experiencing today, God is the answer. God does not promise to take all your troubles away. But He does promise to be faithful to care for you in your problems and to bring you safely through them.  

Please read some of my other blogs for more encouragement on trusting God with your finances. If you want to go deeper, my Bible study, Honoring God with Your Money, is an excellent resource.

Are You Stressed about Your Finances?

Many Americans ended 2023 feeling more stressed about their finances than they did at the beginning of the year. Perhaps you are one of them.

According to a survey conducted in mid-December by Allianz Life Insurance Company, Americans cited concerns about rising interest rates, lingering inflation, and debt repayment such as student loans. They listed as their primary financial resolutions for 2024:

  • Creating an emergency fund
  • Paying down credit card debt
  • Increasing deposits to their retirement account

Many Americans reported receiving pay raises in 2023 that did not keep up with inflation. To combat the increased costs of living, one-fourth of all Americans took second jobs or sought other ways to bring in additional income. At the same time, one-third reported cutting their spending to keep financially afloat. For many people, cutting back on spending meant dining out less and doing more meal planning.

Tightening one’s budget and reducing dining out are appropriate responses to financial stress. Seeking additional sources of income is also an appropriate response. The resolutions listed above will not be an option for people in these situations. You can only create an emergency fund, pay down debt, and save for retirement if you can live below your means. If you are in the minority of Americans who feel you ended 2023 in a better financial situation than you began the year, you should prioritize these resolutions. However, if you feel stressed financially, you must take constructive steps to improve your situation.

Your first step should be to examine all your expenses to see what cuts you can make. Reduce all your costs as much as possible without compromising your family’s health and well-being.  Here are some ideas to consider:

  1. Cut gym memberships. Many gym memberships go unused. Even if you use your gym membership, you may want to take a break from it until your budget balances. 
  2. Examine subscriptions, including magazines, tv channels, streaming services, music subscriptions, and personal improvement programs. If they do not truly add value, permanently eliminate them. Otherwise, cut them off temporarily and re-evaluate when your finances improve.
  3. Reduce dining out. You can save significant money if you eat at home and pack lunches for school or work. Planning menus and shopping with a list are the best ways to discourage eating out for convenience. Many social media accounts walk you through plans and menus to help you organize. 
  4. Buy store brands rather than name brands. You may find that you prefer some store brands and stick with them.
  5. Put a moratorium on buying anything new unless it is essential. If you make a purchase, research the best deal and consider purchasing the item second-hand.
  6. Sell unneeded clothing and other items. Many apps allow you to dispose of unneeded items and get immediate cash.
  7. Eliminate unnecessary insurance coverages. Review your insurance policies to ensure you are not paying for coverages that no longer apply to your situation.
  8. Avoid paying others to do tasks that you can do yourself. Can you mow your lawn yourself? Can you drop off your garbage at a convenience site rather than paying for trash pickup? 
  9. Lower utilities bills. Reduce your electric bill by turning off lights in rooms you are not in and adjusting your thermostat so the heat or AC is not running as much. Cut your water bill by taking shorter showers and only running the dishwasher when it is full. Open curtains in the winter to warm up your space and close them in the summer to cool off your house.
  10. Reduce communication bills. Cell phones and the internet consume a significant portion of most families’ budgets. Examine your plans and determine if you are paying for more time and speed than you need. If you work from home and need higher service levels to do your job, ask your boss to cover some of those expenses.

Your second step is to find ways to increase your income. For many, this has meant taking on a second job or joining the gig economy. I know several people delivering groceries, meals, or products to make ends meet. Many opportunities are available through companies such as DoorDash, UberEats, Instacart, and Amazon Flex, allowing you to earn a bit of extra money in your free time.

Whatever steps you take to help put your family in a better financial position, remember that you need to create a budget, and everyone in your family needs to have input into developing your budget. Also, be sure to go to God with your problems. Ask God to help you make wise financial decisions to provide for your family. God cares for you and wants you to take care of your family. Jesus illustrated God’s care for you in the Sermon on the Mount. “Therefore, I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature?’ Matthew 6: 25 – 27 

If you have other suggestions for reducing expenses, please share them in the comment section.

Please read my other blog posts for more ways to manage your money and reduce stress. My book, Honoring God with Your Money, is another valuable resource to help you manage your money.

Honoring God with Your Money in 2024

The new year will arrive in two days. With a new year, comes a chance for new beginnings and fresh starts.  I encourage you to make a commitment in 2024 to follow the Lord’s leading in all that you do. Obeying the Lord in all things will result in spiritual growth, better mental and physical health, more joy, and less stress, including less financial stress.

Honoring God with Your Money

Plan now to reduce your financial stress in the coming year by honoring God with your money.  Here are some steps to help you.

  1. Acknowledge that all you have has been given to you by God. God gives you the ability to work and earn a living. ”And you shall remember the Lord your God, for it is He who gives you the power to get wealth.” Deuteronomy 8:18
  2. Tithe. God asks each of us to return ten percent of what we earn for the work of the church. God promises to bless those who are obedient to tithe. “‘Bring all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be food in My house, and try Me now in this,’ says the Lord of hosts, ‘If I will not open for you the windows of heaven and pour out for you such blessing that there will not be room enough to receive it.'”  Malachi 3:10
  3. Live below your means. Living below your means will allow you to pay off existing debt and put some money aside for emergencies.
  4. Make a budget and do your best to stick to it.  Include your spouse and children.  Everyone needs to be committed to the budget, or you will not be able to maintain it. Set reasonable amounts of money for entertainment and recreation.
  5. Start saving, even if is only a small amount. Develop a regular habit of putting aside a little bit from each paycheck. Make it automatic by having your savings directly deposited before you get your paycheck.
  6. Designate some money to help out those less fortunate than you.  Don’t try to outgive others, but give within your means as led by the Lord. He who has a generous eye will be blessed, for he gives of his bread to the poor.” Proverbs 22:9
  7. Trust in the Lord.  Those who put their trust in money, jobs, or the government will be disappointed. Only God can meet all your needs.  “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.”  Proverbs 3: 5, 6
  8. Seek guidance from godly financial experts.  Completing my Bible study, Honoring God with Your Money, is a great way to start the year.  There are many other resources available from Crown Financial Ministries (crown.org) and Dave Ramsey (DaveRamsey.com).  Find tools that work for you and use them.

Buying A Car in 2023: Read This First 

When I bought my car 12 years ago, it was a gently used vehicle with about 18,000 miles. My commute to work is short, and I only put about 6,000 miles on it a year. It has low mileage and is in excellent condition for its age, and I may hold onto my car for another year or two. Yet, car shopping has been on my mind lately.

Car shopping has always been challenging. It is even more so in the current economy. Let’s examine what a buyer in today’s economy is facing. The inventory of car dealerships is lower than usual, interest rates are high, and the prices of new and used cars are higher than before the pandemic. According to Experian, the average cost for a new car is $48,000, and the average monthly payment for a new car is currently $729. If you are considering a low-mileage used car, the average price is $27,000, and the average monthly payment is $528. Car ownership costs are estimated at $300 per month, based on current gasoline prices and driving an estimated 15,000 miles per year.

Before starting the search for a new car, it is crucial to plan ahead.

First, you must review your budget and determine how much you can afford to pay for your next car. Include the total costs of owning your car in your budget, including insurance, property taxes, fuel, and repairs. Edmunds Car Affordability Calculator is a great tool to help you determine the price of the vehicle within your budget based on the payment you can afford.   Generally, your car payment and insurance should consume no more than 10% of your gross income, and your total car costs should be no more than 12%.  

Once you know how much you can afford to pay for your next car, you can use these steps to help you find the right one.

  • Research affordable options before you leave your house. Have a good idea of the models of vehicles you can afford and plan to test drive.
  • Cast a wide net. Check with multiple dealers, as well as online. Be willing to spend more time than you usually would to search for the right vehicle.
  • Buy a reliable vehicle. Take any used vehicle to your mechanic to be inspected before purchasing.
  • Be willing to compromise on features that you might like but are unnecessary. Know which features are essential and which you can live without to stay within your budget.
  • Minimize your monthly payment by saving up to make a significant down payment.
  • Pre-arrange financing with your bank or credit union.  Check with your lending institute to determine the best rate they will offer you. Knowing the interest rate will allow you to accurately calculate your expected payment based on the price of the car you seek. When you invest the time and research in advance, you can confidently accept or reject the dealer’s rate.

A crucial element in making sound financial decisions is to plan. If your car is older, now is the time to set aside money for a future down payment. You will lower your monthly payments with this one step. When your car leaves you stranded, and the repair price is overwhelming, you will feel pressured to buy a car. The temptation to quickly buy a car without researching can lead to regret.

Making wise financial decisions helps you live within your budget and reduce stress. My book Honoring God with Your Money is a great resource to help you better manage your money. Sign up for my quarterly newsletter for even more tips.

5 Steps to Prepare Your Child for Financial Success

Teaching financial responsibility falls into the lengthy job description of a parent. The topic of money intimidates many people. Parents feel at a loss about where to start. An excellent place to begin is with their allowance. You can then introduce the idea of saving for items they want to buy. As they age, begin to teach your kids how to balance a checkbook and explain basic financial information.


A recent study found that young adults are most stressed about paying off college debt and lack financial literacy. They are also concerned about their lack of investment knowledge or when to take a risk. These young people believe they will never achieve what their parents did, such as owning a home or the ability to retire at the average retirement age.

Financial education should be a regular part of family discussions. I have created a few beginning steps to help you encourage your child to feel more financially knowledgeable and understand how to manage money early on.

1. Open a bank account for them. You can use the bank statement to show your child the principle of interest and how their balance will grow by their deposits and interest. Set up a small regular deposit and demonstrate how even a tiny recurring deposit will grow to a much more significant amount over the next 5 – 10 years.
2. Ask your young child to select a toy or desired item, then research the price online. Calculate how long it will take to accumulate the money to buy the item if the child saves $1 a week, $5 a week, and $10 a week. This exercise can demonstrate savings accumulation as well as the value of money.
3. Have your teen start saving for their first car. Discuss the total costs of owning a car: car payments, gasoline, insurance, property taxes, maintenance, and repairs. Assist them in determining how much money they need to save each month to afford a car over the next few years.
4. If your child is a teen or young adult, use similar examples to demonstrate how saving a small amount of money each month beginning at age 22 will yield a large sum when they retire.
5. When making a significant purchase for your family, such as buying a new appliance or car, involve your child in the decision-making process. Share with your child what your budget is for the purchase. Let the child help research options within your budget. Discuss how you will pay for the purchase. Have you saved up the money needed? Will you use a “buy now, pay later” plan to purchase furniture or an appliance? Will you take out a loan? If you will borrow money to buy a car, share with your child how you decided whether to borrow from your bank or through dealer financing.


These 5 steps will encourage discussions that will help your child understand the value of money, the power of compound interest, and the cost of borrowing. Instill in your child the value of living beneath your means, long-term savings strategies, and the importance of minimizing debt except for mortgages and other investment opportunities.

For more ideas on how to manage your finance and train your children to use money wisely, my book Honoring God with Your Money is a great resource.

Falling Behind on Your Bills?

If you notice that it is harder to pay your bills lately, you are not alone. The prices of goods and services purchased by the average family have risen by more than $709 a month over the past two years, according to Moody’s Analytics. The higher cost of living stresses family budgets, especially since incomes have not kept up. The Census Bureau announced this week that inflation-adjusted wages fell in 2022 for the third year in a row. As prices are rising, your spending power is declining.

Are you falling behind on your bills? These tips will help you stretch your dollar.

As a financial adviser, now is a good time to re-evaluate your budget and change your discretionary spending before you end up in debt or fall deeper into debt. 

The Washington Post reported last month that the delinquency rate for credit card payments has risen to the highest rate in over a decade. Over the past few years, consumers’ credit card usage has increased significantly. Since 2019, more than 70 million new credit card accounts have been opened, and total credit card debt has topped $1 trillion for the first time.

If you need ideas on making your dollar stretch further, here are some tips to help you manage your money in these tough economic times. 

  • Be intentional with your spending and giving. Adjust your budget for your current spending levels for food, utilities, and other necessities. Then, plan giving and discretionary spending to fit within your budget.
  • Consider cutting back on retirement savings and investments until you are better financially.
  • Look for “extra” sources of cash.  If you got a large tax refund this year, you can access that money now by reducing your payroll withholdings.  
  • Evaluate your car insurance plan and see if you can cut out some coverages or find a less expensive plan; for example, you might have duplicate benefits if you have a medical insurance plan.
  • Reduce your cable bill by eliminating one or more premium channels.
  • Fast one purchase category for a month, such as specialty coffee beverages, massages, new shoes, clothes, or lunches out. Each month, forgo a different spending category. This system allows you to save money without giving up “luxuries” for an extended time.
  • Earn some extra money on Fiverr, Freelance, or Upwork. These freelance job sites provide a way for you to use your talents to earn money when you have a bit of free time.

It is never fun to tighten one’s belt; however, making necessary changes is preferable to running up large credit card balances and feeling stressed due to the inability to meet your obligations.  

As you consider these options, ask God for guidance. He promises wisdom to those who ask Him. “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.”  James 1:5

My book Honoring God with Your Money offers guidance to help you manage your money according to biblical principles.  

Buy Now Pay Later Apps vs. Credit Cards

As grocery prices continue to rise, you have probably felt the pinch in your family budget. According to Moody Analytics, the average American family is spending $700 more per month on food and other household goods than just two years ago. Incomes have not kept up with inflation. Consumers are looking for options to pay for groceries, and many are turning to Buy Now Pay Later (BNPL) apps. The use of these apps to pay for groceries has risen by 40% in the past year.

Installment plans have been around for decades. Forty years ago, my husband and I bought furniture for our first home using a similar program. We selected the items we wanted and completed a credit application. The store delivered the goods, and we paid for it in 12 payments with no interest accruing. Many furniture companies and other sellers of high-ticket items still use this type of payment plan.  

What’s new is the BNPL apps offer services for all types of purchases, not just large purchases of long-lasting items. Amazon is offering installment plans on many items priced over $50. And many BNPL offer four interest-free payments on groceries and meal deliveries. In most cases, the consumer makes payments every two weeks. These apps provide the convenience of credit card payments but differ in some ways.

  • Credit cards extend interest-free credit for 30 – 60 days. BNPL apps require the first payment at the time of purchase.
  • BNPL allows for small, more frequent payments, whereas credit card balances must be paid in full when the statement is due to avoid interest.
  • Many BNPLs do not have a minimum credit score, so it may be easier for individuals with poor credit to get approved for BNPL purchases.
  • Most BNPLs do not report payment history to credit-reporting bureaus, so using BNPL apps will not help you build your credit history or improve your credit score.
  • If you use BNPL loans regularly, you may have multiple loans open simultaneously, and the loan payments may total more than you can afford to pay.
  • Returns and disputes are more complicated with BNPLs than with credit cards.

Some of the same dangers of using credit cards apply to BNPLs:

  • Users of both credit cards and BNPL apps typically spend more money than they would have if they had paid cash.
  • The buyer consumes the items before paying the last installment. For example, BNPL splits a grocery order into four payments over six weeks. Typically, the person ate the groceries long before the final payment. 
  • Balances not paid off in the interest-free period are subject to very high interest rates. Currently, those rates can be as high as 36%.

Research shows that BNPL users generally have more debt and are under more financial stress than non-users.   Frequent use of BNPL apps can add to your stress as the number of loans and the total payments increase. Of course, irresponsible use of credit cards will also lead to financial stress.

If you are struggling to feed your family during these tough economic times, look for alternatives to buying groceries on credit with either Buy Now Pay Later apps or credit cards. These can include buying more store brands, avoiding grocery shopping and delivery services, building your menus around grocery items on sale, and seeking assistance from your local food pantry.

God does not intend His people to live in financial stress. He has set forth money management principles in His word to help you. To learn more, please read my other blogs on financial management. My book Honoring God with Your Money is another valuable resource you might want to read.

Learning From Your Financial Struggles

Financial struggles are a reality for most people. You can learn from these challenging times whether the problem is something you created or from an external source like an employer who laid you off or an extended hospital stay. Perhaps you invested in an opportunity that seemed to be sound but failed. Whatever the cause of your struggles, it is easy to blame yourself and feel that God is punishing you. What feels like punishment, however, may be God bringing you through a situation to draw you closer to Him.

Recently, I met with a client who shared that his passion for helping people facing food insecurities arose from a time when his finances were tight. The tenderness in his heart directly resulted from his own struggle with money. God saw him through that period and has blessed him, so now he can be a blessing to others. You can turn your personal struggles into a way to bless others. 

If you are going through financial challenges, remember that they will not last forever. You may feel like you are in a pit you will never escape. Try asking God what He wants to show you through this struggle. Remember, many of us have walked through lean financial times. 

Let’s look at what we can learn from financial challenges. 

Ask For Help from God: Learn to depend more fully on God. God cares about every aspect of your life. He wants us to rely on Him entirely. He might even use your financial challenges to remind us that He is all we need. The Lord cares for you and will take care of you. Start by asking Him for what you need. “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.”  Matthew 7:7-8

Open Your Heart: Like the client I mentioned above, God uses your time of struggle to open your eyes to the needs of others. If you have experienced homelessness, God may call you to minister to the homeless. If you have been out of work for a time, God may call you to start a business and create jobs. God uses our experiences to give us the insights needed to help others currently in those situations.

Accept The Challenge: Realize that you may be able to live on much less than you had previously thought. Financial challenges force us to make changes to our budgets and lifestyles. You may need to cut premium television channels or not dine out to make ends meet. Rise to the challenge, and you will emerge stronger and able to live comfortably with fewer amenities than before.

Change Your Focus: If your financial challenges mean you must dine out less, embrace cooking at home with your spouse and children. If you must cut back on television and streaming services, pull out a deck of cards or board games and spend quality time with those you love. If your clothing budget has shrunk, make a game out of going to thrift stores to find gently used clothing items that you need. Financial struggles can reawaken your spirit to what is important and give you a better quality of life.

Search For Free: Learn to appreciate “free” activities and quality time with family. Many activities in life do not cost money that you may have overlooked when you had more discretionary spending. Check to see if your community offers free concerts in the park or movie nights; visit state and national historic sites; take bike rides around your neighborhood; attend VBS and other free activities put on by local churches; or spend an afternoon geocaching.  

Receive Humbly: Humble yourself and accept help from others. No matter where you live, you should have access to a local food pantry that will provide food to help you during your down times. Local churches often distribute food at accessible locations throughout your community. Additionally, your local utility may have a program to help those struggling; our utility encourages its customers to donate a few dollars a month to help those in need. If you are struggling to pay rent, you may be able to get help from your church. James 4:10 says, “Humble yourself before the Lord, and He will lift you up.”  God often uses others to meet our needs, but we must make our needs known.

Generate Gratitude: Develop an increased level of gratitude for all that you have and God has done for you. Financial struggles are not enjoyable. Yet, for most of us, they are short-lived. And even in our darkest times, we have much more than people in other countries. Try to focus on what you can afford rather than on what you do not have now.

If you are facing a financial struggle right now, please pray, ask God for help, and let others know of your need. If God is blesses you financially in this season, ask Him how you can bless others. Take a few minutes this week to reflect on what you have learned during past times of struggle. Thank God for His care for you, and consider how you can be His hands extended to others in need

Three Strategies for Managing Finances as a Couple

One of my clients recently shared that he and his wife kept their money separate. He believed their system contributed to the success of their 22-year marriage. This concept surprised me; however, one key to a successful marriage is to develop a money management plan that works for the couple.

Arguments over money majorly contribute to marital unhappiness, and financial conflicts factor in about 40% of all divorces. The ideal time to discuss spending habits, bill-paying responsibilities, and saving goals is before a couple marries. It will reduce stress if each person in the relationship understands their partner’s money management philosophy before tying the knot. After marriage, the couple should regularly review their plan and adjust for income changes, family needs, and joint priorities.

It was clear from my client’s comments that he and his wife followed a very different budgeting strategy than the one my husband and I use. And our plan differed from my parents’ approach. I will share these three approaches as alternatives that you might consider for your family.

My Client’s Approach:  My client and his wife are well-educated professionals earning higher-than-average salaries. They split all their bills 50-50, and each partner can decide how to spend, save, or invest their remaining income. They have their own checking accounts and do not answer to each other about how they spend money. He mentioned that they had a joint checking account early in their marriage. After over-drawing their account due to both of them spending money unknown to the other, they decided to maintain separate accounts.  

Advantages of this approach: (1) Each person establishes and maintains their own credit, so their credit decisions do not impact the other’s credit score; (2) there is less chance of overdrawing their accounts; and (3) each spouse feels in control of their own spending decisions, so they avoid arguments.

My Parents’ Approach:  My father served in the Marine Corps during the first 24 years of their marriage. Since he spent months at a time deployed overseas, my mother needed to be able to run the household and pay all the bills. Dad, of course, needed some spending money at his deployment location. Their solution was to determine the amount of funds Mom required to run the household and have a reasonable amount of discretionary spending. Dad transferred that amount to Mom’s bank account each month. Dad kept the rest and spent or invested it as he saw fit.  

Advantages of this approach: (1) Mom managed variable expenses, such as food and clothing, exceptionally well, which gave her a significant amount of discretionary money; (2) there are minimal risks of overdrawing accounts, and (3) each of them had financial independence with regards to discretionary spending.

Our Approach:  My husband and I have dealt with our income and spending more uniquely. We have always combined our income and made spending decisions as a couple. I am the financial person, so I pay the bills and balance the checkbook. My husband does not like to write checks, so the risks of overdrafts are minimal. Fortunately, we are both fiscally responsible and only make large purchases if we discuss it with the other. We have multiple checking, savings, and credit card accounts and alternate who is the primary owner to have well-established credit.

Advantages of this approach: (1) We have open discussions about spending and investing so that we are fully informed of our financial position; (2) we both have excellent credit and nearly equal credit scores; and (3) we never view money as his or hers, so there is not a conflict if one person is unemployed for a period.

It is God’s desire that married couples live in harmony. Developing a money management plan that works for you and your spouse is essential to living in harmony. If you do not have a plan in place that you and your spouse are happy with, pray about the situation and ask God for wisdom to devise a better approach. God promises to supply wisdom to anyone who asks Him for it. “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.” James 1:5

My Bible study, Honoring God with Your Money, can give you more steps to manage your money harmoniously with God’s Word.